I asked for people to follow a few simple rules- and since some can't seem to do that, I am going to enable comment moderation. I didn't want to do that, but seriously, as much as I wish to have an open blog, I am not going to tolerate the nasty. Or what one of my favorite authors calls "The Mean Reds"
Let me repeat the rules just in case you missed them-
1) No name calling
2) No spitting or hissing venom either
3) Civility is the rule of the day (if you break this one, say adios to your comment)
Also, I am considering not allowing anon posts- so think before you speak-
I put up with quite a bit over the last few days, including allowing a comment to remain that I really wanted to delete, because I was out of line in saying what I said. I should have thought it through, and been nicer. I wasn't- so I was willing to deal with it. But and here's the thing, if the person who posted the comment had to read it, and it had been deleted, how did they have still have access to it?
Really think about that one- yeah, struck me funny too-
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Seriously people, calm down (referring to the name calling, swearing etc). Adoption is and always has been a controversial topic. When you look at these situations one can only wonder how anyone can still see adoption in a favourable light.
It brings out the worst in people because it is laced with so much pain and powerlessness. I understand agencies tell mothers its their choice etc but it isn't really. The choice has been made for you by society and the damnation is there waiting in the wings: place or you don't really love your child. Its a common thread and occurs everywhere. While I was pregnant, I believed adoption was my ONLY choice and so I tried to see the good in it until I realised I was only doing what others were forcing me to do and it wasn't how I felt.
Anyway, this is Mary's blog and if you want to be treated as a human being, then please do likewise and treat others how you want to be treated or if you want to be treated badly, please respect the rules and play nice or don't bother posting at all.
Hugs Mary. This sux but some people just don't learn :(
Its sad that it has to come to this but you have to take care of yourself. You do not deserve to be abused in that manner. Maybe things will calm down some and we can finally have some sort of discussion of the actual issues now. For people so happy they sure come across angry. (the ones using vulgarity and abusive statements. Some from that site came across as respectful when stating their beliefs) I stand by my wish for them to find a good therapist educated in adoption issues. Love you honey. Please remeber you didnt deserve that kind of treatment. They are the words of very confused hurt people lashing out at anyone that dares to question them.
I'm done. :) Though I must say, this was all pretty amusing to me.
Now all this could have been avoided had you not started your little blog war... ha, I was only defending a friend. Isn't that what friends are for though? Yours have defended you just as I'm defending mine.
Good luck to you in your anti-adoption crusade, you'll need it... it's a losing battle.
Peace out.
I see you just can't resist can you? I feel so very sorry for you Jame- you really drank all that kool aid and now it's like acid in your stomach. It burns and burns, and you just can't seem to stop the pain can you? I wonder why that is?
As for defending friends, well yes, that is what friends are for.
Yeah I know I shouldn't feed the trolls. It could have all been avoided if people learned how to read. The whole post was about the person that sent the nasty comment here. Are you saying it was your friend that did that? I seriously doubt it. You see not even I think Jessa sent something like that.
As for defending friends, I do agree with you. I defend those I love to the end. But have any of you thought that maybe the father that was being slammed in the other blog is our friend. I know his name wasn't mentioned but it is easy enough to know when the story broke and when the blog was posted. Father's have friends and family too. Just as you got upset when you THOUGHT someone was talking about Jessa, the family and friend who are already suffering the loss of a child might get a bit upset.
This little blog war was started in several ways. We all had a part in it. Some of us are mature enough to own up to it. I do sincerly hope you can find a good therapist to help you work through some of this pain and anger and the unwillingness to forgive others.
I have no clue why I keep talking to you. I keep hoping you will be able to open your mind enough to hear the actual words I am saying. I do wish you the best.
Good luck in pushing adoption on vunerable women and children, you'll need it. Its a losing battle and the statistics prove it. (see how nasty it is when turned around on you)
Jamie, I have never bothered to post to you but hey, whatever.
You come across as a very sad and mixed up person which I will put down to the fact you placed your child and still feel conflicted about it regardless of what you say.
Thank you for aiding the anit-adoption cause because the damage adoption has done to you, that is what I do not want to see happening to any other mothers.
And just because you cannot see why forcing an innocent person, the child, to live a lie is a bad thing, thankfully many more people who possess a moral compass can and so adoption one day, will go the way most things who cause evil and pain go: down the plug hole.
Hopefully, we will then have an honest system founded on the needs and welfare of the child adoption was supposed to protect but failed at miserably.
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