Thursday, October 24, 2013

Shauna Voigt Inspired a new thing~



So the comment posted not once, but twice was this "You are fucking spastic idiot" You know lady you really aren't worth the time. But being as woefully ignorant about adoption as you are, I made the time! So I created this especially for you and others like you: Welcome to the Hall of Shame! You're welcome!

Tuesday, October 01, 2013

The Endless Lies of the Capobianco's

http://adoptivecouplevsbabygirl.wordpress.com/2013/10/01/give-us-our-prize-and-our-money-too/


You heartless, cruel people! Ye faithless! Ye Lost! Woe to you on the day this child learns to google her name. Once that happens you are done and nothing not even God himself will save you!


Give Us Our Prize and Our Money Too

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We will follow this to the end. We’ve committed to bringing facts to light in this case and Veronica’s return to the Capobiancos, at least to us, does not mean an end. This case will go on to affect other children and other cases. So in that vein, we bring you more of the story.  We ask that the reader please excuse the long, meandering nature of today’s post. We have so much information we’d like to bring you that it’s difficult to be as concise as we’d like and more facts are coming forth daily.
In the months leading up to what was to be the finalization of the Capobiancos adoption of Veronica, we were told that the Capobiancos would  go to Oklahoma to facilitate the most loving and caring transition of Veronica as humanly possible. They made sure to leak that transition plan online. And that plan called for a week long transition with Veronica spending less time with her father and more time with the Capobiancos as the week progressed. The psychologist who put that together did seem to sympathize with the situation and seems to have given the situation considerable thought but remarked that the damage would still be done to the child regardless. She also noted that the best they could do would be to redirect or distract by giving her a cookie in hopes that she would get past the hurt and soon forget what would happen to her.
That transition plan can be found here.
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But as we’ve maintained from the start, there HAD to be more to this. If the Capobiancos were going to go to Oklahoma to get Veronica, then why was Brown in hot water for not showing up that Sunday with the child in South Carolina? The initial transition plan and their statements made no mention of Brown making any appearance in South Carolina.
Well we’re afraid our suspicions were correct. In fact, court documents show that while the Capobiancos led us to believe they were this loving couple willing to do anything to assure the comfort and well being of this child, they in fact submitted a second, surreptitious transition plan to the courts. This transfer plan was far less concerned with Veronica’s state of mind or her reaction to being taken from her father. In fact, aside from one visit at the attorney’s office, this plan basically called for a two day transition with Brown being available an additional day at their disposal should his presence be needed to smooth things over with Veronica and make her more compliant. It also stated the transition was to happen in their home with Brown on their turf and presumably much more controllable given he’d be in their state.
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We were lied to. We were duped. AND if we were lied to about this, what else were we lied to about? Via the testimony posted on this site, you can see we were lied to by birth mother and the Capobiancos with regard to Brown having any knowledge of the adoption. Birth mother’s testimony also was not in line with her earlier depositions.  At various points, many of them were impeached during the family court hearing.  We’ve also heard from the psychologist, Jan Hunt, who said she was duped by their Guardian Ad Litem into reporting favorably for them while being given incorrect information on which to base her report.  And now we see we were lied to on this issue as well. And with Brown’s hearing for extradition on the parental kidnapping charges looming and now the news of their recent suit against him, could we again be being led astray here?
THE MONEY
According to Michael Overall with Tulsa World late last week, the Capobiancos are also now suing Brown for attorneys fees and costs for their trip to Oklahoma.  He reportedly had a copy of the documents filed September 9th and adamantly noted it was the Capobiancos rather than the courts who initiated the suit. However, the couple insist they were not the ones initiating the suit, the South Carolina courts were.  (Overall’s piece has since been taken down although as you can see here and here, other outlets covered the same issue.) We have to ask ourselves, with such an extensive history of lies, are we wise to believe then that courts are suing on their behalf and this suit isn’t being brought forth by them? Weren’t they also the ones who reminded us very early on that one cannot sue for the benefit of another? (This was their argument early on when they maintained Brown was only trying to get Veronica back for his parents. We were told he could not sue for custody on behalf of another. This was their argument with respect to the initial Oklahoma suit as Brown requested his parents look after the child while he was deployed.)
*We will have more on the money issues associated with this case in the future.
THE JUDGE
This order finalizing the couple’s adoption of Veronica also brings forth a strong point and again, another lie. We were told early on that Brown signed his parental rights away and that it’s only now that he wants to change his mind. He’s a dead beat for doing so and as such he is not entitled to his biological child.  We then have to ask, if he signed his rights away, why then was it necessary for the South Carolina family courts to terminate his rights? We’ve been lied to again it seems. Many knew all along and documents attest to the fact that Brown did NOT sign his parental rights away. And we also know Maldonado admitted that Brown had no idea of her plans to put the child up for adoption.
We also point out that a quick internet search reveals two things with respect to Judge Martin of South Carolina: 1. that he has a history of being a subpar judge with a questionable history there and 2., there are allegations that Martin has had prior dealings or was familiar with the Capobianco family prior to this case. In his Enforcement Order of August 5th, it seems rather obvious to the reader Martin seemed to have a personal stake in this and was upset that he’d been named a defendant in a suit filed days earlier in this case. It would seem he had trouble differentiating between his personal emotions and South Carolina adoption law and, based on other online articles, that he has a long history of allowing his anger to override his making legal, moral and ethical decisions.
Initially Martin pressed for Custodial Interference charges on Brown. After some thought, it appears he realized he’d made some sort of procedural mistake. He then decided that what should have happened was a contempt of court charge instead. Oddly though, the Custodial Interference charges were not dropped but the contempt charges were added on instead. And while it’s well within the courts judgement to issue fines in conjunction with almost all charges, the one part of this being pursued by the courts rather than the Capobiancos are fines for each day Mr. Brown had his daughter beyond the date of their adoption being finalized. That definitely appears to be a judge whose anger has overridden good judgement and gone to a personal level so much so that not only is the punishment of losing his child not enough, Brown must also lose his freedom and finances too.
There are also some who will say well, what was Martin supposed to do? The South Carolina Supreme Court left him no option. As an officer of the courts, Martin’s job is to uphold justice. Veronica’s rights were violated. She was not given a best interest hearing.  Objections were brought up with regard to other documents being amiss too. Martin flat out refused to even consider those objections citing his being instructed by the higher court to ignore all other issues and simply PUSH THIS ADOPTION THROUGH! But Martin in his role as defender of justice could have done what was right rather than what was ordered.  And he did so without ever even protesting. In fact, he seemed more than happy to be finalizing this adoption and terminating Brown’s parental rights. Being ordered to do so is never an excuse for doing the wrong thing.
SPECIAL NEEDS
But the absolute most important issues aside from all of this are that Veronica and her feelings were given no thought in this, that we were lied to in that they had a second plan up their sleeve that also disregarded Veronica’s emotions and that Veronica was declared to be a ‘special needs’ child based solely on her race. I’ve asked many in the field of adoption and foster care why this is. What’s that have to do with anything? Well, in foster placements, states are awarded much more money for the care of special needs children than they are for average children. And in the Dakotas especially, this is an overused excuse for the state to step in and take Native children at alarming rates for little to no reason. It’s nothing more than a way to boost revenues in an already overburdened child welfare system. However, in adoption, there are adoption tax credits to be had. And while I’m still not sure of the specifics, I’ve been led to believe that when adopting a child with special needs, these credits could be ongoing.  A quick check of this online states that couples adopting a special needs child at the very least are entitled to take the full deduction without having to document their adoption expenses which leaves us also to wonder then if there is any merit to stories Maldonado was paid for the child…an expense one could not legally document.

Wednesday, September 25, 2013

For Veronica~.

"The older I get, the less patience and tolerance I have for willful ignorance, unnecessary, imaginary competition, and hateful attitudes. The Veronica BROWN case and the horrid comments from people who have NO IDEA what they are talking about make me wonder if this country isn't completely lost for good as this seems to be the prevalent idea of what is acceptable. 

Speaking ill of a child's biological parents is speaking ill of the child. Valuing a coerced text message sent in confusion, anger, and sadness over and above the rights of a child is disgusting. And feeling that it is acceptable for people to "legally" (highly debatable) but immorally remove a child from her fit and loving BLOOD and BIOLOGICAL REFLECTION against her wishes, in favor of monied and connected strangers is abuse. Pressing questionable charges and suing a FATHER to strong-arm out of his child is vulgar and classless, not to mention completely unethical.

I am thoroughly disgusted with "people" today and my urge to GTFO of this nasty cesspool of idiots and selfish, entitled asses is overwhelming. No wonder there are people who consider a so-called "American attitude" of entitlement, selfishness, and utter lack of compassion, offensive and worthy of scorn. It is one of the most horrifying things I've ever witnessed." K.D. 



Let's being by saying this, the entire adoption reform movement is in mourning tonight for our newest member of loss, and we are in disbelief. We are outraged, we are angry, and we are not going to be quiet. Not now, not ever. The people who have done this to Little Star think they have won, but (and someone else said this first) in winning they have surely lost everything. In his pain and grief Dusten Brown is a gracious man, who (while not defeated) showed how much he truly deserves the title Father. He and his wife Robin, put their daughter's well being ahead of their pain and grief. He has done so since this fight began, that's what good mother's and father's do, they put their children first, not their own selfish wants and needs.

 I am tired of those supporters who keep asking where Dusten was the first four months of her life, wtf? He was in training to go to Iraq, and then he was in Iraq. How do you people dare try to tarnish this good man? How do you have the gall to accuse him of abandoning his child, when the mother cut him off, refused anything and everything he offered her and also refused to even inform him of her so called "plan?" How do you call yourselves "Good Christians" and "Good People" how do you dare?  How do you people justify the dog and pony show that is now just starting? How do you sleep at night knowing what you have condoned, and how do the Capobianco's look in a mirror, let alone sleep at night knowing what they have done to this tiny human being? I have some words for all of you, they are not Happy Birthday...

All that being said, let's take a look at what is likely to happen to this little girl. It is likely that Veronica already suffers from PTSD, being separated at birth from her natural mother was a huge trauma. Imagine it, this tiny human was willfully separated from her entire world at birth. As much as I despise what her natural mother did, I will not stoop to name calling here at this time. It was her willfully thwarting Dusten that led to all of this.

Onwards, now let's talk about Split Feather Syndrome, for a good look at it you can go here: http://splitfeathers.blogspot.com/p/split-feathers-study-by-carol-locust.html

Some highlights:

This study has revealed that:

• placing American Indian children in foster/ adoptive non-Indian homes puts them at great risk for experiencing psychological trauma that leads to the development of long-term emotional and psychological problems in later life

• the cluster of long-term psychological liabilities exhibited by American Indian adults who experienced non-Indian placement as children may be recognized as a syndrome (Syndrome: a set of symptoms, which occur together. From Dorland’s Medical Dictionary, 24th edition, 1965.) 

The Split Feather Syndrome appears to be related to a reciprocal-possessive form of belongingness unique to survivors of cultures that have faced annihilation.

The Split Feathers themselves have identified the following factors as major contributors to the development of the syndrome, in order of their importance:

1. the loss of Indian identity

2. the loss of family, culture, heritage, language, spiritual beliefs, tribal affiliation and tribal ceremonial experiences

3. the experience of growing up being different

4. the experience of discrimination from the dominant culture

5. a cognitive difference in the way Indian children receive, process, integrate and apply new information—in short, a difference in learning style 

You can also read here: http://doczine.com/bigdata/1/1367000822_e170ab00c8/55137.pdf

To learn more about the ICWA and it's importance read here:

http://www.mncourts.gov/Documents/0/Public/Childrens_Justice_Initiative/Ryan_-_ICWA.pdf

Lest you think it is only First Nations children who suffer these sorts of things, please read here:

http://www.cnn.com/2013/09/16/world/international-adoption-korea-adoptee-advocates/index.html

Now let's talk about the higher suicide rates among adoptees, I actually did a paper on this subject for Adolescent Psychology.

 You can read a short summary here:

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11483840

How about internalized racism? Do you think perhaps this is a contributing factor in Split Feather Syndrome?

"Internalized racism is the personal conscious or subconscious acceptance of the dominant society’s racist views, stereotypes and biases of one’s ethnic group. It gives rise to patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving that result in discriminating, minimizing, criticizing, finding fault, invalidating, and hating oneself while simultaneously valuing the dominant culture."

Do you think it's possible this could happen to Veronica? That in order for her to cope in an all white world she will learn to hate herself?

I also want to point out that this child being isolated from her natural family has already begun. They are going to try and break this child's spirit, her will, her very being, and soul are on the line here. From what we have all read we know that the C's have already said no visits or phone calls for six months. How much damage is going to be done to this child in that time? Are they going to convince her that her family gave her away because they don't love her anymore? Will they deny the family the ability to even send this child a card or gift? Of if they allow it will they accept the gifts and change the name of the giver?  There are so many things that they could do, but might not be willing to do. There are still many more things that they probably shouldn't do, that they will. All in the name of making this child "as if born to" them.

 The craziness of the adoption machine marches on, and the tune it marches it to is this, greed, entitlement, money and power. It has been said by many, but I am going to say it again anyway. Infant Adoption in this country has become about finding babies for people who want them, rather than finding homes for babies need them. This must change, if we are to protect families and preserve them it must change. I envision a this, an act entitled UCWA, the Uniform Child Welfare Act, (We can call it Veronica's Law) it should act and function in the same ways as the ICWA, only it will cover every child, of every ethnicity and every parent who wants and deserves a chance to raise their child(ren).

In closing I want to urge all of you reading to not give up. If we are to have meaningful reform we must not let this case die away and forget, we must use it as the opportunity it is for all of us, including the Brown family. I urge them to not stop fighting, that whatever offers you have to help you be taken advantage of, now before it is too late and the support you have now begins to bleed away. I know you are hurting, I know this is hard, and I know you need time to process, but please I am begging you, don't take too long to decide upon a course of action. The time to strike is now, while the injustice of this is still fresh in the public's minds and hearts.


I also want to urge all of my readers to please go here and sign:

http://www.change.org/petitions/state-of-oklahoma-and-u-s-department-of-justice-eric-holder-investigate-the-adoption-of-veronica-brown

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Found this tonight- Thwarted Fathers

http://adoptivecouplevsbabygirl.wordpress.com/2013/09/18/thwarted-fathers/ to go directly to the blog post or you can read it here:



Single mothers get recognition. We raise them in praise every Mother’s day. Single Ladies get a song. What exactly do ‘thwarted fathers’ get? Nada. Zip. Zero. Zilch.  Well unless you consider the scripted ridicule.  And then they get ‘deadbeat’, ‘loser’, ‘serial impregnator’, ‘sperm donor’, etc…
According to the Meriam Webster dictionary, to thwart is to:
  1.  run counter to so as to effectively oppose or baffle : contravene
  2.  oppose successfully :  defeat the hopes or aspirations of
  3.  pass through or across
You see, the gist of what you are about to see is that according to Judge Malphrus of South Carolina in her ruling of Sept. 2011, Dusten Brown was a THWARTED FATHER.  That means he was effectively opposed, that adoptive couple effectively violated his rights.  It means they defeated his hopes and aspirations of being a father. They passed right over him, ignoring his rights and stealing his child with trickery of the law much like some fairy,  adopto-land magicians.
I realize many have been told for a long time that Mr. Brown abandoned his child and is a horrible person but that simply was not the truth. It makes the entire tragedy that has become Baby Girl’s life much more palatable if we believe this couple were SAVING her. After all, they even named their cause SAVE Veronica Rose. They are saving her right?
But a deeper read and some thought lets you get a glimpse of adopto-world tactics, into what happens when an couple is so desperate to adopt that they are willing to ‘thwart’ the father to do so.
They find birth mothers in unfortunate situations. They offer inducements. They get her support and permission. She often has an axe to grind with the birth father. Adoptive couples and attorneys are often very eager to help birth mothers solve this little issue. They often forgo some part of the paperwork. They cut the father out of the picture. The list goes on.
But here we see,  Mr. Brown still won his case on more issues than simply ICWA.  They found his rights were intact and had to be terminated first. They found terminating them was NOT in Baby Girl’s best interest.  They would not terminate them. They found birth mother lied. They found adoptive couple to be untruthful when seeking to terminate his rights based solely on lack of support for six consecutive months.  They found Adoptive Couple was trying to use a loophole to get around him. They found he tried to be there but wasn’t allowed to be. They found adoptive couple to be impeding contact between Mr. Brown and his daughter.
But somehow, on appeal to the Supreme Court of the United States, the only issue before them was ICWA and whether that applied.  And in another unfortunate leap, South Carolina (on remand) seemed all too eager to forgo Baby Girl’s right to a best interest hearing and various other procedural safeguards and simply hand the prize over to the highest bidders, the Capobiancos.  They were able to ignore every other legal ground on which Mr. Brown won his case.  They simply said ICWA did not apply so therefore, regardless of his rights and any other legalities, these people, as well-to-do South Carolina consitituents should have his child simply because as Mrs. Capobianco stated, they wanted her more.
How did we get from there to here? How can our justice system allow this to happen to a legal birth parent in this country? What if this were your father? Your son? Your child?  How do we fail a child like this?  I’m hoping it’s a question we all will be asking ourselves. I hope it’s something that doesn’t allow one to sleep at night. I hope it’s something that outrages others as much as it’s outraged me. I hope it’s something that compels one to scream and yell and write letters and tell the world this just isn’t even humane!
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Sunday, September 08, 2013

New Testimony In Adoptive Couple Vs Baby Girl aka Melanie Capobianco In Her Own Words

Oh look here! Came across this tonight while scouring the blogs. This makes for some really interesting reading.

http://adoptivecouplevsbabygirl.wordpress.com/2013/09/08/melanie-duncan-capobianco-in-her-own-words/?preview=true&preview_id=132&preview_nonce=68f337b7e8&post_format=standard

Let's Talk About Coercion ~

I have seen a lot of bashing going on against Christianna Maldonado. It bothers me, I have to admit that, it bothers me a lot. Given the amount of coercion that goes on in adoption today, I am willing to bet that CM has faced some of the worst the industry has to offer on that score.

Take a look at this post by Cassi:

http://www.adoption-truth.com/2012/03/coercion-not-choice.html

Also this from Origins America and Origins Canada:

http://www.originscanada.org/adoption-practices/adoption-coercion/adoption-coercion-checklist/




"Methods used by “Adoption Professionals”:
 You were told you that you were unfit to be a mother because you were ‘unwed’.
 You were told that you would be inadequate as a mother.
 You were told that keeping your baby would be selfish.
 You were forced to draw up a list comparing what you could give to your baby with what adopters could give.
 It was stressed to you that your baby “needed a two-parent family.”
 It was stressed to you that the needs of your baby came before your own needs and that you could not fulfill your baby’s needs.
 The doctor who delivered your baby told you that you must sign-over your baby to him for adoption. (Did you later find out that the baby was adopted by friends of the doctor?)
 You were told that if you did not surrender your baby, that your baby would be put into foster care until you did sign.
 You are told that surrendering your baby is an expression of how much you love your baby (message: if you keep your baby then you don’t love your baby).
 You are told that adoption is “thinking about what is best for your baby.” (message: adoption is best for your baby).
 You are told that adoption is “putting your baby’s needs first.” (i.e., before your own needs. Message: your baby does not need you.)"

Let these things sink in, and really think about them. Now I am not saying CM was subjected to any, or all of these, but I am willing to bet she was coerced in ways both large, and small. So many of us were, and so many are still being coerced. I am not saying that CM did not do the things she has done in order to "get back" at Dusten Brown. But, I am saying that we need to give her the benefit of the doubt. We do not know, and we can not know what has gone on between her and the Capobianco's, and the agency, and the lawyers. I was coerced into surrender, I was told lie after lie, and threatened, until finally I literally had no choice and I gave in. I surrendered to the machine that un-mothered me. I have to wonder what was done to CM in order to gain her compliance in not only this adoption, but in the filing of a lawsuit against the ICWA.
 I have to wonder exactly what has been said to this young woman behind closed doors, and if she is like so many "walking on eggshells" in order to preserve and semblance of an open adoption with her daughter. (yes, her daughter, as well as Dusten's) I wish I could get inside her head, and know what she is thinking as all of this unfolds. I wish a natural mother could speak to her, (I would do it in a heartbeat) and tell her she is not alone. That she does not have to sit in silence and accept whatever has been going on as gospel and her only truth. I wish I could tell her that she has many women who have been in her shoes that are willing to help her, and support her is she so chooses.

 I wish more than anything that those voices who purport to be speaking for her would kindly sit down and have a nice big cup of Shut The Frak Up. You do not get to speak for mother's of loss, you do not get to put words in our mouths, and you certainly do not get to speak for the children we have lost. If you really want to know what adoption is, what it does to both mothers, father's and children then listen to our voices. DO not seek to speak for us, do not seek to silence us, rather listen to us, truly and without interrupting, or speaking over us, just listen... mayhaps then you will learn what a horror modern infant adoption in this country truly is. How it is inherently coercive and unethical, and immoral.  




Thursday, September 05, 2013

Oh The Things People do, and don't do!

I can't help but believe that the Governor's of both Oklahoma and South Carolina have overplayed their hands this week. With the signing of the extradition warrant issued for Dusten Brown done, Governor Mary Fallin has very much overplayed her hand. IN the words of a poster on Standing Our Ground for Veronica Brown:

""the GREAT thing that has come out of Fallin's actions yesterday and Dusten's actions today is that SHE CAN NO LONGER HOLD THE (EMPTY) THREAT OF SIGNING THE EXTRADITION OVER HIS HEAD TO EXTORT ANY ACTION OR LACK THEREOF FROM HIM! oh, and the fact that, due only to HER interference, he now has an additional THREE WEEKS to mount an aggressive defense against the Extradition! i love how ignorant people presume to know the law." (reebecca wallace. rsu. prelaw and political science 1988)

She certainly has lost out on any further chance she had to manipulate this situation to the advantage of the Capobianco's and their team of players. Now if you read on the oppositions page, there is a hue and cry about Dusten being released on his Own Recognizance, and how it's all so very unfair, and wrong, and how he never gets punished for doing "bad things" but when the shoe was on the other foot, and the C's disobeyed gag order after gag order? When they refused to transition Veronica and held onto her for months after the court ruled she should be returned to her father, when their PR team called in the dogs for the hand over, well that was all perfectly all right? It's all righteous outrage and constant whining these days for those folks.

I must say I don't pray often, when I do pray, I ask for justice for this young lady, and for her father who has fought for her from the age of four months, to now the age of four years. He will fight for her foUrever. I think that is a good, good thing. 


I don't have much else today, but will leave you with this thought.

Tonight, a little person, a little human, a little girl, will go to bed, having been tucked in by both her mother and father. The father who loves his daughter so much he is willing to go to jail for her. I know my father(s) would have done the same for me. It would behoove the so called "parents" of this tiny human to remember their humanity, to remember that once their father's might have done this for them. It is time for them to remember this tiny human, has rights, and privileges and needs and wants, that have nothing to do with them. It is time that they actually thought about this tiny human, rather than themselves. I wish for once that they stop thinking of the adults in this case and think of this tiny human- and give up their fight to take her from her family.

Please God(s) --

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Christy Maldonado in her own words

The documents and text provided here are from the actual court documents- I don't know where this came from, but frankly I don't care. It proves what many of us have known from the start. Christy Maldonado is a liar, who has tried to back pedal and make herself look good for the public. I can't wait to see how the SVR camp spins this! Read it and weep friends and neighbors....

From the blog found here:

http://adoptivecouplevsbabygirl.wordpress.com/


the documents featured in the original blog can be found here:

 http://www.scribd.com/doc/163797058/BM-Cross-Exam





THE BIRTH MOTHER IN HER OWN WORDS

In an effort to bring transparency and fairness to the matter, we will feature information in future posts spotlighting the person’s involved. We hope that you’ll weed through it all to make an informed decision about this case.
Today we’d like to bring you the birth mother in her own words.
Some highlights:
Q. And according to you, and I can refresh your memory if you don’t recall, but you told this — this individual with Nightlight that you had not told my client about your plans
to adopt the child.
A. Right.
Q. And the truth is he had no idea you intended to adopt this child, did he?
A. No.
Q. And the first time my client had learned that you had put his child up for adoption was when he was served with the action in January of 2010. Isn’t that true?
A. I don’t know when he found out.
Q. Do you have any knowledge of him knowing that prior to
that date?
A. No.
Q. And the Nightlight, in the Exhibit 4, you also state that my client is a Cherokee, you know he’s a registered member of the Tribe. That’s never been — you always knew that, didn’t you?
A. Yes.
Q. You always made that clear to the birth (error here, should be adoptive) mother and the
birth father, didn’t you?
A. That I’m aware of, yeah.
Q. You told everybody, every agency involved, this child’s father is an Indian. He’s a member of the Cherokee Indian Nation?
A. Yes.
Q. And you knew when you were pregnant or tell me when you knew that my client was going to be deployed to Iraq.
A. Well, I had always known that sooner or later he was going to be. Now, whenever he found the date out, I don’t remember.
Q. You also didn’t know how to spell your fiance’s name?
A. No, I know how to spell it.
Q. According to Nightlight’s investigation and according to the letter that was sent by your attorney, Ms. Zimmerman, to the Nation, his name was spelled with an I,
when in fact he spells Dusten with an E. Isn’t that true?
A. Right.
Information courtesy of the following:
and
http://hidemyass.com/files/3Hw4L/   from “Carli Sthree” posted on the Haley Hernandez Facebook page.

THE TRANSFER

On Dec. 31, 2011, Baby Girl was transferred to the physical custody of Dusten Brown per the South Carolina family court’s order.  Much speculation surrounds the details of that transfer.
The adoptive couple’s supporters maintain that no warning was given, Mr. Brown simply swooped in in some truck, with no transition plan and stole her. She was a confused, crying child given up to strangers and shuttled across the country. She’d be sure to be upset and psychologically damaged. It was all done so quickly and under the cover of darkness. They had no chance to prepare.
S.C. proceedings however indicate in fact, they were given time to prepare.  A ruling issued earlier that fall stated that courts had ruled in favor of Mr. Brown and a transfer was imminent. The Capobianco’s, in the very same manner for which they now criticize the biological father, attempted to fight the ruling by filing for a stay. This was a legal gamble on their part, one they should have been aware could cost them further time with the child if they didn’t win.   It seems that continued litigation and legal foot dragging caused the courts to take a firm stand and order the immediate transfer of the child with less than 24 hrs. notice.
Supporters also firmly stand by their statements that no advance notice was given and that media outlets and protesters showed up that night in a rather organic, unorganized fashion, drawn there to bear witness by their broken hearts.  Pages were set up to support the Capobianco’s in their efforts to get her back but supporters insist this wasn’t done until after the transfer and no one from their side asked for any persons or media to show as that would have been further damaging to Veronica.
Media reports though from the time give us a different view and further insight into the transfer.
In an article by the Charleston City Paper, one is given the picture of a distraught couple, standing among the debris left behind by New Year’s Eve revelers, empty handed and tearful in the darkness of night.
And in what would appear to be in direct conflict with supporters claims, Trio Solutions, the company of friend and spokesperson Jessica Munday, issued the following statement in advance of the transfer calling for anyone and everyone to show even if they didn’t personally know this family.
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Post from Trio Solutions asking that supporters show up in force to support.
“We are standing behind Melanie Duncan and Matt Capobianco on this very sad day. Today, they have to hand their precious daughter, Veronica Rose, over to her biological father – a man who she has never met, lives in Oklahoma and gave up his parental rights years ago. We have tried to keep this out of the public eye in order to protect the family’s privacy but when the call came this afternoon that they were to lose their child in just a few hours, we decided to share the story in hopes that something could be done…that someone would help. Please visit http://www.saveveronica.org and be sure to sign the petition. The transfer is scheduled to take place at 5 p.m. today at Charleston Place Hotel. Please come in peaceful support of this family. You don’t have to know them, you just have to come. Thanks to all.”      -Trio Solutions, 12/31/2011
However,video and their own reporting show, Mr. Brown arrived as directed at the designated time and place. He was later forced to relocate the child and move the transfer to his attorney’s office. The media at the behest of Trio Solutions had created a detrimental situation for the child.  Brown’s attorney’s were forced to try to wait out the crowds apparently but in an attempt to thwart their efforts in keeping this as peaceful as possible, reporters staked the location out, waiting for Brown to appear well after dark. While he tried to load everything into the truck, reporters and supporters for the Capobianco’s continued to harass and surround him sticking cameras and microphones into his face while he held Veronica in his arms.  On the sidelines, Matt and Melanie Capobianco continued to give local news stations interviews.
Video of the transfer can be seen here.

HOW DID WE GET HERE?

Oklahoma, 2008, Dusten Brown and Christina Maldonado are in a relationship. He’s proposed and they intend to marry, although it would seem the feelings are much stronger on his part. Shortly after becoming pregnant, Miss Maldonado informs him of the pregnancy and of her intent to call off the relationship. The best one can ascertain given the facts is that Miss Maldonado isn’t smitten with the idea of marriage and the couple have fought repeatedly. They’ve said things to one another that were less than amicable.
According to court documents, Miss Maldonado and Mr. Brown had several exchanges via text message. Finally, in the heat of an argument, in response to her repeated prodding, Mr. Brown texted back indicating he would ‘give up his rights’ to their child.
However, court documents also show there is much more to this story than meets the eye, much more than has been reported from either side thus far. The following is the story of how the case of Adoptive Couple V. Baby Girl began as taken from various court records.
Veronica was born in Sept., 2009 in Washington County, Oklahoma. Records indicate the couple lived together but that Brown’s absence due to military service and Maldonado’s change of heart are what terminated their cohabitation and pending nuptials…the modern day version of the ‘Dear John’ letter. At that time, Mr. Brown was assigned to training in the U.S. military stationed in Ft. Sill, Oklahoma (approximately 4 hrs. from his home in Bartlesville).
Records state “PRIOR TO THE BIRTH OF THE CHILD (MALDONADO) COMPLETELY CUT OFF ALL COMMUNICATION WITH (BROWN). (MALDONADO) REFUSED TO TELL (BROWN) WHEN THE CHILD WAS BORN AND KEPT THE CHILD’S WHEREABOUTS A SECRET FROM (BROWN). …THE DAY AFTER THE BIRTH THE CHILD WAS TRANSPORTED TO SOUTH CAROLINA. MATTHEW AND MELANIE, LAST NAME UNKNOWN, FILED A COMPLAINT FOR ADOPTION IN CHARLESTON COUNTY, SOUTH CAROLINA FAMILY COURT ON SEPT. 18, 2009.” Maldonado denied Brown the opportunity to participate in the birth and to contribute towards expenses and support. He didn’t know where his child was since her birth.
Initially, Matt and Melanie Capobianco were allowed to remain anonymous in court documents, referred to only as “MATTHEW AND MELANIE, last name unknown.” Brown, according to Maldonado’s own admission, having no knowledge of the adoption because she wouldn’t take his calls or visits, had no idea if his child was with Maldonado or not. He could only assume she was but never once thought she’d been given for adoption to a couple a thousand miles away. In fact, in court transcripts for some time, Brown referred to his infant daughter as Victoria, indicating not only was he not aware of her birth but that he wasn’t even told her name. While remaining anonymous and not wishing to give him any more information about them than he already knew, they too referred to her as ‘Victoria’ and didn’t bother to correct birth father. Maldonado also referred to Veronica as ‘Victoria’ in proceedings, conspiring with the adoptive couple.
Documents go on to state the first notice Brown had of any adoption action was Jan. 6, 2010 when he was approached by a Lawton attorney asking him to sign papers stating he would not contest the adoption. It’s worth noting here, all evidence points to Brown being scheduled to deploy for Iraq on January 16, 2010. He was given 10 days notice with which to prepare for something they’d known about for more than 4 months at that point. (Some maintain it was actually more than 6 mos. with Maldonado having planned this even while still pregnant with Veronica.)
Records also indicate the document he was presented with was confusing.  He was under a lot of stress pending his deployment with a lot of tasks to complete before that date. He had no attorney to advise him. The documents never mentioned he had a right to an attorney or a choice to not sign. He had no idea what his signature on the document would mean. It was never notarized or verified and at no point did Brown sign away his parental rights. (The record stresses he never appeared in any court to relinquish his rights nor had any court terminated his rights so as to point out that not only did those documents not terminate his parental rights but neither could text messages.) He simply signed an ‘acceptance of service’.
Having been served on Wed., January 6th with those documents, Brown wasted no time in consulting with not only his commander and the JAG division of the military, but he also hired an attorney by Friday the 8th. Given it was the weekend, the attorney called the South Carolina courts and the couple’s attorney at the first opportunity and followed that up with a formal letter stating Brown was revoking his signature on the documents. Despite having received this information both verbally and officially in writing, the adoptive couple’s attorney went on to file these documents with the South Carolina courts giving the impression that father was in fact willing to give his blessing to their adoption. By January 14th, 8 days after being notified not only that his daughter existed, was born and had also been shuffled off to South Carolina, and with deployment looming, he filed in Oklahoma courts to establish paternity and obtain custody of his daughter. Records also indicate that as of Jan. 14th, 2010, Dusten was still in Comanche County, Oklahoma (stationed at Ft. Sill). He’d been fighting from afar without access to all the records, documents and resources that he’d have had at home and was waging his defense in between training exercises.
In hiring his attorney in his hometown of Bartlesville, he’d have to rely on brief telephone conversations to convey his story and faxing documents back and forth. It can be assumed that he was probably rushed and under stress. Records show he forgot to tell her or that she was unaware that he was Native American initially and that information was not included in documents. In fact, documents instead relied on Maldonado’s information on ICPC forms stating this was not a matter concerning Native American heritage. The Indian Child Welfare Act, for this reason, had not yet come into play.
Brown shipped off Jan. 16th, hesitant to leave his child behind but obligated to serve his country at that point. By April, the courts had been informed of the attorney’s error or Brown’s omission regarding his ties to the Cherokee Nation and this case then fell within the guidelines of the Indian Child Welfare Act.  (Worth noting here is that there is some speculation as to whether or not the birth mother and the adoptive couple were aware of the Indian heritage of both birth father and baby. If this were the case, they would also have been obligated to note this but did not appear to have mentioned it at this point.)
The legal battle for Veronica has so far landed in Oklahoma courts, SC Family Courts, the South Carolina Supreme Court, the Supreme Court of the United States and the Cherokee Nation Tribal Courts and continues today in what’s become a tug of war. The hearings continue to focus on various details of their story. Was Brown a deadbeat? Was Maldonado acting out of spite? The case also involves the Indian Child Welfare Act. Jurisdiction has become an issue akin to trying to nail jello to a tree. The Capobiancos and their supporters maintain Brown made no attempt to be a father to his child and that they’ve raised Veronica for the first two years of her life. They insist they are her rightful parents. Brown and his wife, Robin, assert that the child was in essence stolen from Brown through deception while he was preparing to serve and was serving his country. We urge everyone to follow along for more information as we get those new to the case caught up, discuss the case and bring forth more facts.