Not an If So Girl~

I wrote about those If-Then statements and how they can cause so much hurt and pain- today let's look at If-So

The first time you hear if in adoption is most likely in a statment like this one "If you love your child then.." So what does that tell you from the get go?

It tells me that love is used as a weapon, and that weapon can cut so deeply that the scars never fade-

Consider this quote-

"How do you pick up the threads of an old life? How do you go on, when in your heart you begin to understand there is no going back? There are some things time cannot mend. Some hurts that go too deep that have taken hold." Frodo Baggins~

When you think about that, it explains so much of my life, how do you do those things? How do you carry on when there is no going back? No do overs? No magic wands? No miracles that let us go back the beginning and start again, and avoid the traps that were lying in wait for us.

But, there are no do overs - it is, what it is. Nothing changes it, nothing fixes it, there are no do overs-

If-So has another meaning for me- if this happens, then this follows, so it makes sense not to do that if the consequences are negative yes?

How could I have been an If-So girl if I didn't know all the consequences?

Yeah exactly- Not an If-So girl-