For Veronica~.

"The older I get, the less patience and tolerance I have for willful ignorance, unnecessary, imaginary competition, and hateful attitudes. The Veronica BROWN case and the horrid comments from people who have NO IDEA what they are talking about make me wonder if this country isn't completely lost for good as this seems to be the prevalent idea of what is acceptable. 

Speaking ill of a child's biological parents is speaking ill of the child. Valuing a coerced text message sent in confusion, anger, and sadness over and above the rights of a child is disgusting. And feeling that it is acceptable for people to "legally" (highly debatable) but immorally remove a child from her fit and loving BLOOD and BIOLOGICAL REFLECTION against her wishes, in favor of monied and connected strangers is abuse. Pressing questionable charges and suing a FATHER to strong-arm out of his child is vulgar and classless, not to mention completely unethical.

I am thoroughly disgusted with "people" today and my urge to GTFO of this nasty cesspool of idiots and selfish, entitled asses is overwhelming. No wonder there are people who consider a so-called "American attitude" of entitlement, selfishness, and utter lack of compassion, offensive and worthy of scorn. It is one of the most horrifying things I've ever witnessed." K.D. 


Let's being by saying this, the entire adoption reform movement is in mourning tonight for our newest member of loss, and we are in disbelief. We are outraged, we are angry, and we are not going to be quiet. Not now, not ever. The people who have done this to Little Star think they have won, but (and someone else said this first) in winning they have surely lost everything. In his pain and grief Dusten Brown is a gracious man, who (while not defeated) showed how much he truly deserves the title Father. He and his wife Robin, put their daughter's well being ahead of their pain and grief. He has done so since this fight began, that's what good mother's and father's do, they put their children first, not their own selfish wants and needs.

 I am tired of those supporters who keep asking where Dusten was the first four months of her life, wtf? He was in training to go to Iraq, and then he was in Iraq. How do you people dare try to tarnish this good man? How do you have the gall to accuse him of abandoning his child, when the mother cut him off, refused anything and everything he offered her and also refused to even inform him of her so called "plan?" How do you call yourselves "Good Christians" and "Good People" how do you dare?  How do you people justify the dog and pony show that is now just starting? How do you sleep at night knowing what you have condoned, and how do the Capobianco's look in a mirror, let alone sleep at night knowing what they have done to this tiny human being? I have some words for all of you, they are not Happy Birthday...

All that being said, let's take a look at what is likely to happen to this little girl. It is likely that Veronica already suffers from PTSD, being separated at birth from her natural mother was a huge trauma. Imagine it, this tiny human was willfully separated from her entire world at birth. As much as I despise what her natural mother did, I will not stoop to name calling here at this time. It was her willfully thwarting Dusten that led to all of this.

Onwards, now let's talk about Split Feather Syndrome, for a good look at it you can go here: http://splitfeathers.blogspot.com/p/split-feathers-study-by-carol-locust.html

Some highlights:

This study has revealed that:

• placing American Indian children in foster/ adoptive non-Indian homes puts them at great risk for experiencing psychological trauma that leads to the development of long-term emotional and psychological problems in later life

• the cluster of long-term psychological liabilities exhibited by American Indian adults who experienced non-Indian placement as children may be recognized as a syndrome (Syndrome: a set of symptoms, which occur together. From Dorland’s Medical Dictionary, 24th edition, 1965.) 

The Split Feather Syndrome appears to be related to a reciprocal-possessive form of belongingness unique to survivors of cultures that have faced annihilation.

The Split Feathers themselves have identified the following factors as major contributors to the development of the syndrome, in order of their importance:

1. the loss of Indian identity

2. the loss of family, culture, heritage, language, spiritual beliefs, tribal affiliation and tribal ceremonial experiences

3. the experience of growing up being different

4. the experience of discrimination from the dominant culture

5. a cognitive difference in the way Indian children receive, process, integrate and apply new information—in short, a difference in learning style 

You can also read here: http://doczine.com/bigdata/1/1367000822_e170ab00c8/55137.pdf

To learn more about the ICWA and it's importance read here:

http://www.mncourts.gov/Documents/0/Public/Childrens_Justice_Initiative/Ryan_-_ICWA.pdf

Lest you think it is only First Nations children who suffer these sorts of things, please read here:

http://www.cnn.com/2013/09/16/world/international-adoption-korea-adoptee-advocates/index.html

Now let's talk about the higher suicide rates among adoptees, I actually did a paper on this subject for Adolescent Psychology.

 You can read a short summary here:

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11483840

How about internalized racism? Do you think perhaps this is a contributing factor in Split Feather Syndrome?

"Internalized racism is the personal conscious or subconscious acceptance of the dominant society’s racist views, stereotypes and biases of one’s ethnic group. It gives rise to patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving that result in discriminating, minimizing, criticizing, finding fault, invalidating, and hating oneself while simultaneously valuing the dominant culture."

Reference: http://www.rc.org/publication

Do you think it's possible this could happen to Veronica? That in order for her to cope in an all white world she will learn to hate herself?

I also want to point out that this child being isolated from her natural family has already begun. They are going to try and break this child's spirit, her will, her very being, and soul are on the line here. From what we have all read we know that the C's have already said no visits or phone calls for six months. How much damage is going to be done to this child in that time? Are they going to convince her that her family gave her away because they don't love her anymore? Will they deny the family the ability to even send this child a card or gift? Of if they allow it will they accept the gifts and change the name of the giver?  There are so many things that they could do, but might not be willing to do. There are still many more things that they probably shouldn't do, that they will. All in the name of making this child "as if born to" them.

 The craziness of the adoption machine marches on, and the tune it marches it to is this, greed, entitlement, money and power. It has been said by many, but I am going to say it again anyway. Infant Adoption in this country has become about finding babies for people who want them, rather than finding homes for babies need them. This must change, if we are to protect families and preserve them it must change. I envision a this, an act entitled UCWA, the Uniform Child Welfare Act, (We can call it Veronica's Law) it should act and function in the same ways as the ICWA, only it will cover every child, of every ethnicity and every parent who wants and deserves a chance to raise their child(ren).

In closing I want to urge all of you reading to not give up. If we are to have meaningful reform we must not let this case die away and forget, we must use it as the opportunity it is for all of us, including the Brown family. I urge them to not stop fighting, that whatever offers you have to help you be taken advantage of, now before it is too late and the support you have now begins to bleed away. I know you are hurting, I know this is hard, and I know you need time to process, but please I am begging you, don't take too long to decide upon a course of action. The time to strike is now, while the injustice of this is still fresh in the public's minds and hearts.


I also want to urge all of my readers to please go here and sign:

http://www.change.org/petitions/state-of-oklahoma-and-u-s-department-of-justice-eric-holder-investigate-the-adoption-of-veronica-brown